PukkaBDSM

Bondage is all about being rendered helpless by restraints. For many people, the knowledge that they are powerless, that someone else can do things with their body and they can’t prevent them, is a very powerful turn-on. For others, the physical sensation of bondage feels erotic.

Tight constriction can create very intense stimulation. Its also a chance to struggle, to let your body lose control and get rid of all of your tensions. It can take the form of elaborate roping with complicated knots, leather straps, handcuffs, spreader bars, or soft silky scarves tied around the hands and feet. The way you can be restrained and rendered helpless is limited only by the imagination of the person tying you up.

Blindfolding and gagging are often used with the bondage to increase the feeling of helplessness. Great fun and a powerful experience, but always remember NEVER leave someone who is tied up and gagged unsupervised, as they might choke. Be careful the restraints aren’t too tight as you can cut off the circulation and do a lot of harm. Be very careful about tying anything around the neck because pressure on the carotid arteries can lead to unconsciousness quickly. Likewise be careful with gags or things tied in the mouth because as well as restricting breathing they can trigger a gag reflex, which could be really unpleasant and dangerous if the submissive can’t get the gag out.

As with other activities in BDSM, always watch your partners reactions and be sensitive to them, adjusting what you’re doing accordingly. Tie silk scarves, bandannas, and similar, loosely because they have a tendency to tighten under tension or when the submissive struggles and if you’re not careful they can become so tight they have to be cut off.

You might want to try a pair of basic ankle and wrist cuffs (in leather, velcro, or whatever) which you can purchase at any good adult toy store. If you want to play with handcuffs, get a good quality pair with a double lock so you can snap them on and lock them in position so they won’t get tighter under pressure. Handcuffs of course are bare metal and struggling against them can easily pinch nerves and cause chafing. Proper padded, buckled, bondage cuffs are much better for erotic games.

Discipline, in this context, means training your submissive to obey rules or a code of behavior, using punishment to correct disobedience. The right of a Dominant to discipline his submissive is a fundamental and accepted part of many D/s relationships. The discipline may be physical (spanking or caning for example) or it could involve withdrawal of privileges or possibly being set unpleasant tasks. Whatever form it takes, discipline should be administered in a firm but loving way and it should never involve or imply the loss of the dominants love, affection or commitment because that is always likely to have a negative effect upon the submissive. Discipline was one of the “D” words subsumed into the umbrella term of BDSM.